I decided I would start to write a blog as an addition to my ‘Counselling & Psychotherapy in Durham’ website. I aim to write about therapy, specific issues that people commonly experience (for example, anxiety, depression, grief) and how to manage these and about the complementary therapy of Reiki.
Given that blogging is new for me I thought it apt to write my first ever blog on new beginnings.
Are you also starting a new venture, project or hobby?
How do you feel about new beginnings and change?
As I started to write this blog I initially thought of the term ‘new beginnings’ as a positive concept. The idea of starting out on a new adventure and heading down a road or path that is full of potential. Yet the more I reflected on this, I realised that even the most well planned of journeys can be fraught with various obstacles and challenges.
There may be a landslide blocking the way, or we somehow end up talking the wrong turn. So although there is the excitement of what lies ahead there can also be frustration, confusion and uncertainty. Maybe we didn’t even chose to go on this journey, but life's circumstances thrust it upon us. Then there are the adventures that are longed for but we never manage to even make it out of the door, we cannot find the car keys or the right boots or we just don’t know where to start.
New beginnings often bring with them endings and changes which can be both sad and frightening. Is there something in your life right now that you would like to change? Yet the idea of starting something new seems to frightening or overwhelming?
Here are some of the common reasons for not making changes:
The potential risks involved
The possible impact on others
Not knowing where to start
Fear of failure
It seems like too much time and effort
There can be a safety and comfort in keeping things the same, even if that means our growth is stagnated or our current situation is not good for us.
If you are feeling stuck in a rut and unable to make changes then counselling could be a good way for you to explore how you would like your life to be and what stops you from leading that life.
Counselling can also be a good place to explore any changes that have happened that you are struggling to come to terms with or make sense of.
Journaling can also be a useful way of reflecting on how your life is right now, how you would like it to be and the blocks to obtaining this. Click here to read the blog I have written on how to begin writing a journal.
Mindfulness is also another approach that maybe helpful for dealing with transitions. Living Mindfully run self funded five and eight week courses in County Durham.