I remember making my first ever journal entry in 2008. It was a green, A5, soft covered book with lined pages, which ended up being transformed into my confidant and wise adviser. I had not anticipated what a powerful and useful tool that journaling would become for me. It developed into an invaluable medium where I could freely articulate my thoughts and feelings, which I could not express to others at that time in my life. It increased my awareness of myself and my life, as well as it being a place to release any pent up feelings of sadness, anger or fear. It was also a space where I could rejoice and record my achievements or happy events. I have not stopped journaling since 2008 and I now have quite a collection of different note books on my shelf of varying shapes, sizes and colours. I now see journaling as an important part of my self-care routine as well as it being a method that assists with my continuous personal development.Read More
I am sure that the majority of us find ourselves putting off certain tasks for a various reasons. Just yesterday I found myself watching some TV, surfing the internet and tidying up, when really I needed to sit down and sort out my paperwork. Does any of this sound familiar? Quite often procrastination is a minor problem, but it is thought that up to 20% of people can have real difficulties with it, where procrastination goes on to cause major issues with their education, career and/or personal life.
There are many reasons for people procrastinating and it is can very individual to each person. Some of these reasons are benign, whereas others are much more problematic and deeper rooted. The most common reason given for procrastination is that it is a means of avoiding unpleasant emotions. Certain tasks may cause feelings of boredom, frustration and the fear of failure.Read More
Anger has a bad reputation, yet it is a natural and valid human emotion just as sadness and joy are. Often, as children we are taught that it is wrong to be angry and that if we show our anger we can begin to believe that we are bad for having done so.
I remember as a child, I was given the clear message that anger was not acceptable. This message came from teachers, family and society. My anger was met with punishment or rejection, and as such I learnt to suppress it rather than learn how to use it in a more productive way. This suppressed anger would then either turn into resentment or it would be turned inwards towards myself. What I was not taught as a child, and had to relearn as an adult, is that anger is not bad and that it can be a very useful and helpful emotion.Read More
In the previous two blogs I talked about how you can start to understand your anger and how to manage it. This third blog looks at more creative methods for exploring and managing anger. The methods I will talk about here are writing an angry letter, drawing angry feelings or creating a collage. The drawing angry feelings or creating a collage can also be done with any other emotion too such as sadness or grief or happiness and hope.
Write an Angry Letter
Unsent angry letters can be a great way to express pent up anger in a safe way. It can be a space for you to freely describe what you think and feel about a person or a situation you areRead More
There are many different causes for chronic pain, such as, fibromyalgia, arthritis or injury. Maybe you are living with chronic pain or you know someone who is. Chronic pain can have a huge impact on many aspects of a person's life. Pain can bring about sleepless nights, irritability & anger, anxiety and depression. It can result result in the loss of independence and feelings of frustration or shame.
Prior to experiencing a chronic illness the persons life may have evolved around work, caring for family and being active. Yet the debilitating nature of pain can limit how much a person is able to do. It can also affect their relationships with their family, friends and colleagues and leave the them feeling lonely and isolated.Read More
I have recently been posting on my Facebook page about the positive affects that nature can have on us. I keep discovering more and more research that seems to demonstrate that being outdoors is great for both our physical and psychological health. However, if you are feeling low, depressed or anxious it can be extremely difficult to get the motivation and the energy to regularly get out into nature. If you are wanting to get outdoors more then here are my top five tips:
Start by considering what it is you would like to gain from spending time outside. There are the obvious benefits such as physical and psychological health but there might other factors that could also be motivating for you. May be you would like to learn a new skill, make new friends, become fitter.Read More